Judy Neinstein - Canada
I am sure you all worry about spoiling your child and as a grandparent I have the same concerns. Well maybe some concerns, but actually for grandparents it is OK and our job to spoil our grandchildren.
One thing you can be sure about is that love does not spoil children. Here are some facts:
1. Love is imperative to a child's healthy development.
2. It is just not possible to love a child too much.
3. It is the parent's and grandparents responsibility to provide love, encouragement, and safety for the child.
4. Listening is crucial in showing your children that you love them. Understand their situation and give honest communication on how to handle life's difficult situations.
5. Establishing limits and discipline is absolutely necessary for your child's well being. Actually all children want this because this gives them a sense of safety and security.
Sometimes, unpleasant disciplinary actions must be handed down. "First, feelings; then discipline," is a highly effective approach that begins with a positive statement that acknowledges the child's feelings (right or wrong) and then explains your reason for setting the disciplinary consequences. This can help reduce the levels of resentment following the action.
Please bear in mind that each child is different and what works for one child may not work for another.
In closing I would like to say that children are a gift! Many people dream of having children someday, while others receive an unexpected surprise! In any case, there are many decisions to be made to ensure that your child receives the best possible training and is given an abundance of love. As a grandparent I never plan to fall short on this.
Judy Neinstein – Canada